I have a question for you today but let me tell you something that happened last week.
I had a meeting with a client last Thursday to discuss a book she wants me to write for her. It was quite an interesting meeting and I learnt so much from our conversation, I felt like I had just had lunch with Wisdom. We discussed marriage and by the time we were done, I felt more assured that I would meet the right person for me and make the right choice. She even offered to be a part of the screening committee for Le Boo. As we parted ways, I felt confident, loved and assured that I would have a great marriage.
When I alighted at my bus stop a few hours later, I stopped to buy some red meat from a meat-seller who had displayed his beef by the roadside. Since it was already dusk, the inner market stalls would be empty and buying from the roadside was a better bet. In the usual manner of buying items in the market, we haggled over prices then settled on a price and I asked him to cut the beef.
As he did, I realised that I had cheated myself greatly. The pieces of meat seemed smaller than what they would usually go for in spite of ‘the recession.’ I felt really upset with myself. In fact, I felt so unsettled, I did not even remember to ask him to fi si (Yoruba term for asking for extra portions when buying). I had to consciously forgive myself for making such a blunder.
Now, I know you’re wondering why I am telling you about red meat and a conversation with my client in this letter. Please read on.
In the last few months, I have not purchased beef because I live with family and my aunt handles the purchases. Every time she returns from the market, she would complain about the really high cost of foodstuffs as I joined in unpacking the bags.
So, it was with the mindset that everything is expensive that I approached the meatseller. In my subconscious, I had already set myself up to spend more for less. After all, the cost of everything in the market was astronomically high. True? False! I confirmed and realised I had paid way more for the beef than it should have cost especially at that time of day.
That night, I re-learnt the power of listening to the right people.
I woke up this morning feeling assured that I will have a great husband/marriage because I have been feasting on positive messages and surrounding myself with positive examples. I am so assured of this that my prayers are more focused on being a fabulous wife to the man God gives me and less on receiving a good man. I have been reading God’s word about marriage, not Dear Aunt Jane.
Dear Friend, who have you been listening to? Whose voice do you hear as you ago about your daily activities? That day, I cheated myself because I kept hearing, “Meat is expensive. Food is expensive. Everything is expensive.” Is that what you are hearing, too?
This is the reason my debut eBook, They Called Me Stupid, has affirmations in every chapter and the audio recording has one extra track containing all the affirmations. My desire that we will hear the right words so much that they saturate our subconscious. The full eBook and audio tracks will be available for sale this Saturday. You may read the free chapters here- www.iniakpan.com/they-called-me-stupid while you wait.