I am afraid to write. Please help me.
Now, this is one plea I hear on a regular basis. If I earned a million dollars for each call I have received from ladies and gents who have a flair for writing but are afraid to express it, I would have houses in The Swiss Alps, The Bahamas and a five-star hotel in Abu Dhabi. Yeah, I would be that rich.
A recent one comes to mind. Let’s call her Mary. Mary has a writing gift but was afraid of putting her pen to paper. Had I not been a certified therapist, I would have trivialised her fears because they do not make rational sense. How can you say you have a gift but are too afraid to express that gift even if on your bedroom Facebook wall? Not rational, right?
To help Mary, I used the power of metaphoric storytelling to guide her through a fear-eradicating journey. Within minutes, she could laugh at her reluctance to write and from there we developed a strategy to help her write boldly and more frequently.
I will not pretend that your fears are the same as Mary’s because not everyone has the same motivations. In the last six months, I have helped several people with the same fear using different metaphors but today, I will give a generic answer which I hope will help you in some measure. Shall we?
Imagine with me that you are on a journey to a new state. You’ve heard so much about this state and all the goodies it holds for its citizens- no traffic jams, abundant high-paying jobs, stately and well-furnished houses, sumptuous foods and delicious fruits at minimal prices, security, constant power supply and eye-popping luxuries.
You know that what you heard is true because every day, your cousins who live in that state send you pictures and videos of their daily lives. You see how seamless and stress-free their lives are and right now, you envy them. You wish you could enjoy all the benefits you enjoy but the fear of being rejected, of not being good enough or of not knowing enough hold you bound.
Now, ask yourself the following questions:
- If I choose to defy my fears and publish my thoughts, what would happen (best case scenario)?
- If I choose to defy my fears and publish my thoughts, what would not happen (worst case scenario)?
- If I choose to be afraid and not publish my thoughts, what would happen (best case scenario)?
- If I choose to be afraid and not publish my thoughts, what would not happen (worst case scenario)?
Please note that these questions require that you think carefully and I hope you love yourself enough to do this assessment honestly. Until I return next week with the second part of this topic, ponder on these questions and be kind enough to share your answers. I would be elated to read your response(s).